We started yesterday with a breakfast including gingerbread waffles, biscuits, bacon, ham, fruit crisp with apples and cherries and oats, and spiced cider. #1 daughter told funny stories, #1 son played music, and both of them taunted me for taking pictures.
“Do you even think,” asked #1 son, “about the background? Here I am with coffee, bacon, newspapers, dogs…”
I laughed, but laughing made me cough.
We headed out to the fields to watch the Ultimate games.
“Tommy Ultimate invented it in 1997,” #1 son explained coolly.
Actually it was Joel Silver in 1968, but none of us knew that at the time, so we accepted #1 son’s story.
#2 son plays on his college team, but a local connection (the son of a friend of a friend of mine from church, who happens to be in the same department) heard that a community team from Aspen were packing into an RV and heading down here. They were willing to add a team member and it added up to complete transportation at a bargain price.
It was great to see #2 son. Once your kids move away, you don’t physically see them as much any more, and there’s no way around that. Thank goodness for Facebook, cell phones, and Skype.
#2 son is currently working on research involving brown tree snakes on Guam. He has done some things with feral swine and also dog vaccinations. All this is part of the emerging field of wildlife economics. He happened to get this job by being in the right place at the right time, doing the right things.
After the game, we stopped off for Nyquil and then I spent the rest of the day alternating between a drugged stupor and coughing. During a coughing spell, #2 daughter called and we had a conversation about women in technology which included consideration of the question: do women manage their careers, or just work hard and wait for someone to notice them?
For me, I think it has always been the latter. I’m not sure this is good. However, I have also seen most of my kids get wonderful opportunities by the same method. I don’t think it’s luck.
Being in the right place at the right time almost never means hanging out in your living room watching cartoons. And being in the right place at the right time means nothing if you aren’t doing the right things to get noticed by the people with power to give you an opportunity.
Taking the initiative to do things, doing them well, and letting it be known that you have done so may not seem as active as “managing your career,” but it just might work.