My solo went well yesterday morning, and then we went to lunch with my parents. #1 daughter and I went shoe shopping, and I got into the whole spirit of the thing and looked at clothes with her and everything. Following that, I went to a meeting at the church at which we got to congratulate ourselves on what great progress we were making and then came home for a heart-to-heart with #1 daughter and sending out of invoices.
Also, yesterday, I met with CD to discuss the first session of Life@Work. She brought up some points I hadn’t thought about much. One was the way we treat others. I think that I consider treating others well a basic, essential thing, and always make efforts to treat others well. But CD had talked with her family about it when they dealt with some extreme stress during the ice storm. They had articulated the stress and agreed not to get upset with each other because of that stress. What a sensible thing to do.
Another was the idea of underlying reasons for behaviors. CD is a counselor, so naturally she thinks of these things. Having to be available at all times and having little work crises might make us feel important. We might choose to focus on things we feel confident about in response to feeling uncertain in other areas of our lives.
I thought about last week, when I made a real effort to maintain more balance in my life, to get to the gym daily (except on Friday, when I succumbed to the “I have too much to do to take time for that” feeling), to stop working at reasonable times and spend time with my family, to think about things like sewing and music even if I didn’t do much about them. The previous week I’d had no semblance of balance.
I definitely got more done the first week. But I also definitely felt better the second week. And I got enough done.
The second session of Life@Work talks about being multidimensional. Christ, the writer of the next section says, could certainly have been absolutely and completely focused on his big job, to the exclusion of all else in his earthly life. But actually he was probably a good carpenter. He had friends. He concerned himself with feeding people and didn’t shoo away the children who came to him. And we, as people, are given examples like the Proverbs 31 woman, who was certainly a very multi-demensional person.
The image of juggling was the one that Life@Work used to start out the first session. The second session begins with a different image — spinning plates. You get one spinning well, and then you have to dash over to another and spin it, and just as it seems to be spinning well, you have to rush over to another. Sometimes we might feel that it would work better to focus on one spinning plate and let the other things fall. And plate spinning, like juggling, requires continual movement and adjustment for success.
Both could, I think, be done gracefully, rhythmically, and joyfully, rather than in a frantic and fearful way.
So here are my new shoes. I’m going to be multidimensional enough to enjoy wearing them today.
Today I have a whole bunch of work to do, and I’m excited about the projects I have on hand. I’m also going to go to the gym. I have a rehearsal tonight, and I’m going to find time to make a decent dinner before I go do that. #1 daughter is leaving today, probably while I’m at class. It was great to have the girls here for the weekend.