I should clarify that my quarrel with the guys in my house is not about what they eat. Sure, I would like my sons to choose healthy food all the time. I would also like them to go to church, sing in the choir, and clean their rooms regularly without being reminded.
Let us return to the real world. The thing is that we eat together. Breakfast and dinner, and lunches on weekends, are all family meals. So what they eat, I eat, and vice versa. I feel that they get enough junk food from school day lunches, and could eat 
healthy food without harm for two meals a day. They disagree.
Now, I have tried a divide-and-conquer approach. I bought frozen sausage biscuits from the Schwan’s man for them, so that I could have steel cut oats and raisins for breakfast and they could microwave themselves some saturated fat and simple carbs.
This worked well for a couple of days, and then they began agitating for waffles and banana bread.
I have also tried compromise. I would make quesadillas with both whole-grain and white flour tortillas, so they had a choice. I would serve beef one day and fish the next. I would put small amounts of vegetables into a recipe. They saw this as evidence that 
they were winning, and were all the more adamant the next day.
I have also said, “This is how the doctor says I should eat, and if you don’t like it, you can fix your own meals.” They tell me that I am an unnatural mother. Also that it is wasteful for me to cook things they will not eat.
What my boys would like me to do is to make waffles and sausage for them, and cook 
steel-cut oats for myself. They don’t care whether or not I eat cookies, as long as I keep them supplied. I have informed them that I am not willing to cook two meals at a time.
But if I am honest, I must admit that if I bake them cookies, I will eat cookies. If I make them waffles and sausage, I will eat that instead of my nice oatmeal. If we order 
in pizza, I will eat it.
I read once about a conference of nutritionists where they set out plates of fresh fruit and plates of chocolate chip cookies, and the cookie plates emptied long before the fruit. Humans like meatitude and sweetitude. For most of our history, that was not an issue, since those things were not available most of the time. Folks had their porridge 
and went out to work long hours of manual labor, and if they got the chance for a feast, they could eat freely and enjoy it without giving their lipids profiles a thought.
Of course, they also generally died before they got old enough to worry about it.
Things are different for us, because we are surrounded by readily-available lavish foods all the time, and have to make special efforts to come by any hard physical work. In the absence of alternatives, we can certainly enjoy eating only fruits and vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, and nonfat dairy products. These foods are 
good, and they taste good when prepared well. As long as they don’t have to compete for our attention with French pastry, we don’t have to feel deprived when we eat only these foods.
Unfortunately, my boys do not agree. My husband howls, “I need FAT!” And it is true, actually, that he does. The doctor told him to eat ice cream. They no longer even test his cholesterol, since he has the lipid profile of a 16 year old.
And of course my boys are engaged in hard physical work or play for much of their day. #1 son’s summer job is gardening and maintenance. #2 son is a gymnast. At 15 and 18, they can certainly eat whatever they want without any immediate health concerns.
They may have gotten lucky with their genes, too, and ended up with their dad’s tendency rather than mine. So there is an element of truth to their claims that I am being selfish when I cook healthy foods. “I would rather you had high triglycerides,” #2 son has confided, “than that we would have to eat that stuff.”
So this is the food conflict. 
Today I am going to work, and everyone else has the day off. I can take my whole wheat peanut butter sandwich and carrot sticks, and they can eat whatever they want, and we won’t have to quarrel over it again till dinner time.
This is what happens to people who insist, despite all the good advice they have been given, on getting married and having kids. Causation, not correlation!
If you were living all by yourself in a studio apartment you could prepare and eat whatever you bleep pleased, in peace, without having to put up with any kind of guff from anybody else.
And then the day would come when you would be eating in a “senior” facility of some kind, and somebody else would have prepared the food you were supposed to eat, without asking you about your druthers, and there you’d be — thinking, and probably saying, just the kinds of things that you’re now hearing from your fractious spouse and offspring.
There’s no escape. Life is life.
Best non-knitting post you’ve ever posted, IMHO. And certainly the most handsomely illustrated. Way to go.
It’s equally selfish that they should want you to have a higher health risk for the sake of having slightly more “normal” food to eat.
Can’t you make healthier banana bread and waffles? I use 3/4ths whole wheat flour (which is already enriched with flax seed meal, wheat germ, nutritional yeast, and soy flour) in my fruit breads and cut down the sugar. I do 1/2 the flour whole what for waffles. I’ve also successfully added oatmeal to the fruit bread, although I usuall forget. I’ve seen recipes for oatmeal waffles as well. Maybe it’s not the 100% oatmeal you’d like, but maybe that would be a compromise?