I was not chosen for the job I told you about. It was Director of Education at the church I attend, and the other candidate was the wife of their former minister (recently retired from another pastorate), and a deacon in the church. Giving her this position — and she is well qualified, too — allows the church to bring a beloved family back to the church, and is a matter of widespread rejoicing. The members of the committee, and some other folks who I suppose had heard about it, made a point of coming up to me to tell me how impressed they had been with my interview, and the pastor wants to talk with me about “other possibilities.”
The point here is that I was actually there to get the rest of the story. Usually, when you are not chosen, you never get to find out the very good reasons that you were not chosen, and have to think about that daring answer you gave to that question, or worry that your qualifications are not as good as you thought — or whatever your personal response is to such things.
When often there is a good reason to choose the other candidate that is not about you at all.
That’s the moral of the story.
The people on the education ministry are now making delicate suggestions about how I can volunteer the skills that I revealed in the interview.
This just shows that I have succeeded, at least in the context of this church, in being as humble and modest as I always try to be and usually fear I have not been 😉
Sorry to hear that you didn’t get the position. It is nice knowing that it’s got nothing to do with you though. Hopefully something even better comes up for you. 🙂
Do you want to volunteer those particular skills? I don’t always want to volunteer all of the skills I have- another reason for modesty and humility.
I’m sorry you didn’t get the job. 🙁 But it IS nice when you find out the reason you didn’t had nothing to do with you.
you have been tagged! Name six weird things about yourself and then tag 6 other people. this was done to me, so it’s not my fault. :rolleyes:
Well, good solid try, anyway.
And they have “other possibilities.”
Not too sure about the ‘volunteering’ of those skills. It’s not as if you have a lot of free time as it is. To be hardnosed about it, if the skills are that valuable and they could use those skills then regardless of the connections of the other job candidate ….Also, the other applicant has been employed to do the job for which your skills were ‘useful’. If they needed 2 people to do the job then they should have advertised 2 positions not be taking on one employed and one volunteer.
You don’t want to volunteer the skills for a job that you didn’t get. There are only three possible outcomes if you let yourself do that. (1) You do so well as a volunteer that you make the person getting paid for the job look bad, which pitches you into a political mess. (2) You do so badly as a volunteer that people go around thanking Providence that you didn’t get the job. (3) You do so well as a volunteer that you find yourself spending all your free time that way, and the person who got the job and is getting paid to do the work is just delighted with that, since it gives her lots of free time. I’m with sighkey.